The issue of men in the public eye cheating on their wives has begun to pop up all over the place. It seemed that this whole debacle began with John Edwards and Elizabeth Edwards. When it came out that John Edwards had cheated on his wife Elizabeth, a whole flurry of criticisms of the issue came out. But what made the situation even worse, was the fact that he cheated while she was dealing with being diagnosed with and fighting cancer. Despite this horrible act of infidelity, Elizabeth Edwards chose to stand by her husband, and stay with him. She chose to bear this act of betrayal, and was always next to her husband as he ran his bid for president in the 2008 election. The shocker was when she found out that he had actually fathered a child with his mistress. After this, Elizabeth finally decided to leave her husband. Another example, is the infamous Tiger Woods scandal. Although his wife, Elin has made no concrete decision on whether or not to leave him or stand by him, there are rumors going around that she plans on taking him back. What is it that causes these women to stay with their husbands? Other politicians have cheated on their wives, and had their wives stand by them. It is under scrutiny that the women have their own agendas which take priority to their marriages. But, there must be some underlying reason women just can't bear to leave their husbands, even when the ultimate act of betrayal has taken place.
-Jane Hayashi-
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I've always considered that it's because of money. Or love. Their husbands make ridiculous amounts of money (Tiger Woods, for example) and it's a possibility that their wives don't want to leave them based on how much money their husbands make. My guess is that they'll deal with the infidelities as long as their husbands come home to them and they'll all be "one big happy family."
That's something that I never really understood. How do these people get away with what they do?
Why aren't people as lenient towards me? It's not like they have anything to hold against me much. If I wasn't as unwelcomed, I wouldn't be pacing around school during lunch all the time.
Alexandra - Women can depart with a huge sum of money from a divorce, so money may not always be the issue. But you may be right about hoping that their husbands might turn around. My guess would be that these people are charismatic.
On a side note, while I no longer advocate for the death penalty of cheaters, it doesn't mean that I have grown to like them more.
I believe its how it looks to the public. They want to show that they are faithful and willing to stand behind their husbands. Another reason might be that they are at the age where finding another man will definitely be challenge. There also women who believe "Oh, he did it once and was caught so he won't do it again." I don't really think the couples are that much in love to think this way but more like.. there are positives to being with him so I am going to stay.
An interesting thing about all such cases is that "cheating" on someone is a pretty blatant sign that whoever is doing the cheating does not love the other party involved and does not share sentiments or otherwise of devotion. Actions speak louder than words. They might be able to control the symptoms (sleeping around etc.) but they are from then on out simply suppressing symptoms while nothing has changed the disease of their disloyal hearts. Of course they are only human and no more and no less can be expected. But even so, that is good question. Why do their wives stay? For Clinton maybe her political agenda can explain it and for Mrs. Woods it could be the money. However, there are many cases in which such motives seem to be minimal or nonexistent. hmm...
I completely understand all of what you are saying and actually really agree. I just hear about these different acts of infidelity, and I can't fathom living with someone who betrayed me in such a way. Maybe it is their personal agendas, their hope to rebuild their families, or maybe they really are in love. But as Will said, when you cheat, it seems pretty obvious that your love for your partner is wavering, and if you were to stay together, there will always be that mistrust. And just an aside, I don't really understand why Elin Nordegren may stay with Tiger Woods, I do not really think it is the money aspect since she probably would have gotten half of his fortune, and around 300 million dollars, plus child support and alimony, as well as the fact that she already has a home in her name. But in many other cases, I do think that money and finances play a big role in this.
-Jane Hayashi-
ok well first off, these women choose to stay with their husbands to save face and make money. Their actions should in no way dictate how any case of infidelity should be handled. There is no excuse for cheating no matter what. These political figures and celebrities either cover it up or openly state it (David Letterman). Overall, I do believe in second chances on the matter as long as the motives are pure; love only, not money. If the normal people all decided to act like celebrities with their marriages, we'd have some issues!
In short, keep your pants on, and bug your loved ones cell phone.
I don't understand why women stay with their husbands after they were cheated on. It's kind of sad to hear about women that decide to stay eith their husbands, no matter how disloyal they can be.
I could state my opinion but I would be repeating what you all have to say. I just want to add that I think women should be stronger and not make it so easy for their unloyal husbands to come back to them. I also find it interesting that the issue of men cheating seems to be fairly common, but you seldom hear of women who cheat and the husbands who take them back. What could this imply about the differences between a man and woman in their relationship?
I don't think women stay for the money because they can still get a large amount of money when they divorce their husbands. I think that the majority of women think that they won't be able to find someone, so they stick with their husbands. They would probably rather forget that their husbands cheated on them than try to find another husband. Also, if the husband and wife have children, the wife may choose not to leave the husband since divorce can be difficult on children.
Talk about the patience of a saint.
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